I woke up this morning thinking of what I would say to you on our anniversary, our 5 year anniversary. The other day I looked in our love box (a collection of memories through out our 9 years together) and it was stuffed with so many cards, it could barely close. This probably explains why our words to each other are usually said on Facebook. People may feel it’s sappy, cliché or even just plain weird, but what they don’t realize is our words are being recorded…saved for another time when things get so damn hard, those feelings remind us of what we have together.
I remember before our wedding, people kept telling us marriage is hard, marriage is hard work, overrated…why would you want to get married? Have you lived with each other before? What if you can’t stand each other? Aren’t you young? The doubts…the negativity, completely baffled me. Where was their faith in love? In God?
I didn’t listen to any of it…and still don’t.
Being married to you is easy. I never once thought or even felt that it would be difficult to be married, especially to you. They don’t believe me when I say my marriage isn’t hard work. They don’t believe me when I tell them everything you do for me, or our children. Our constant give and take. How you come home from work sometimes, exhausted, but take one look at how ragged I am from the day, and instead of sitting down, you make dinner, clean up the kitchen, and still put our daughter to bed.
They don’t believe me when I tell them how completely in love we still are. How even when you have your daughter hanging onto your arm while you’re holding your work bag in the other, the dog barking at your heels, and still make your way to where ever I am to make sure we have a kiss.
I often feel people feel marriage is hard because they let everything else affecting them, into their relationship. We have had several trials and tribulations, moments where I completely fell apart, or you wondered if there’s even a solution to the problem. I knew after I said my vows, God would test our marriage.
Our strength, our patience, our selflessness, and our faith in each other.
Despite the issues that could have affected our marriage, it didn’t. There will be many more to come, and yet, I don’t feel the least bit worried or anxious. And yes, they don’t believe me when I say that either.
You are an amazing human being and I continuously thank God for placing you in my life. I count my blessings even more to your parents for raising you to become the man of my dreams. The man I immensely respect, admire, and never want to live without.
You are my other half, the person that owns my heart, and whom my soul was meant to be with. They may think I live in a dream world, but I know it’s my reality.
And I know you’re not perfect. But I don’t care, because you’re my perfect person. And after 5 years of marriage, we still don’t strive for perfection, but instead a beautiful, resilient one.
Forever and always honored to be your wife,