This is our Date Night Jar and we’ve had it for about 3 years now. One day I was going through Pinterest and came across a pin that someone did for their spouse as a Valentines present. I was debating on whether to do it and then figured it would be a cute idea for us to do weekly. This was WAY before our kids were born and our careers were keeping us so busy that sometimes being at home didn’t mean we were unplugged. Our phones were near us at all times in case an email popped up or one of us was on the laptop.
Danny and I (since the day we met) have always made a point to make sure we were never disconnected from each other. As soon as I (or Danny) start feeling this way I immediately think of something we could do. Yes, it would be easy to go out to dinner or to a movie (it’s a privilege we would love to do now!) but sometimes that felt so monotonous or boring. Plus, we didn’t always want to spend money (movie tickets alone make you think twice about which film is worth watching on the big screen).
We made the date list together and came up with a number of what’s considered expensive or moderate for us. Then organized them by three different categories with dollar signs ($). To give you a better idea, these are some of our dates
- Take a cooking class
- Dinner and Broadway
- Couples Massage
- Bed and Breakfast
- Visit a vineyard
- Comedy Club and Dinner
- Sports Event
$-$$ (moderate spending)
- Make sushi together
- Coffee Date
- Dollar Movie Theater and Thai food
- Dessert Only Date
- Picnic Date
Stay at home (which is honestly the main one we do now so this one tends to fill the jar more)
- Fondue and a classic movie
- Popcorn and a chick flick
- Puzzles and Pizza
- Dinner and Disney Movie
- Drinks and Dominoes
- Wine and Cheese Night
- Take out and Scrabble
- Crosswords and breakfast for dinner
- 2 hours of video games
- Sports game and food
- Movie Theme Night-your choice
We have a ton more and it caters to what we both like and specific dates we can have in our local area. Next I went and bought a pretty mason jar, large enough to hold popsicle sticks (I think it was $7). Then I went to Michaels in search of these popsicle sticks and instead came across these colorful foam ones. I went to the clearance section and saw ribbon and this random keychain like heart and put it all together at home. I think I honestly spent $12 for the whole thing. The categories became color specific (I added other colors to make it full, now they have dates on them too) and if we had a certain budget that week then we stuck to that specific one or at times closed our eyes and picked any color.
I highly encourage any couple to do this. It’s so much fun and it really makes you look forward to having that time alone (especially when you have kids). We make more of an effort now and if either one is falling asleep we slap them (no I’m kidding…does a pillow count?)
The date night jar did go in hiatus for a few months when our first was born (figuring out how to converse with one another while actually making eye contact was a task in itself). I remember doing dates after 3am feedings because those would be the only times we could just breathe and relax. Modern Family became our go to show (the only one that could keep us awake) and breakfast became the recurring meal (when you’re holed up at home during winter with a baby, you don’t know the difference between day and night).
Anyways, I digress. DO THIS NOW. It’s easy, fun and what’s not to like? 🙂